Phillip always over emphasized the importance of good habits. Habits are what make or break a person. You cannot achieve what you want to achieve or be successful in any area of life without having more positive and productive habits than negative ones. The people who experience extreme success did not just achieve their goals and dreams over night. They worked at it and over time they built habits that led to success. Here are some basic habits that anyone who wants to be their best self can build into their daily lives:
Quiet Time: Let’s face it, we are busy busy people especially in today’s society. We are always on the go. Building the habit of carving ten to thirty minutes out of your day to read a personal development book, read the Bible, write down goals, or simply sit and reflect on life is crucial for success. People need to be able to clear their head.
Set A Schedule. With all the things you have going, organize your life by writing down and maintaining a schedule. Knowing and seeing what you have to do helps hold you accountable, reminds you and pushes you. My good friend who owns a window washing company called www.northwestglassact.com is one of the busiest people I know. He would not be able to run his business or his life for that matter without a schedule. Just ask him! Scheduling out your days is extremely helpful and worth it. Look into it.
Similar to the Defining Leadership article I published, today’s article touches again on the subject of leadership. My mentor was such a great and natural leader and he was always helping and showing others how to be more affective as leaders. I remember learning these concepts from Phillip, back when I still called him Mr. Brunelle. He had just started to take me under his wing and he invited me to take a ride with him to lunch in a limo provided by his favorite limo company that he used what seemed like everyday. In the vehicle he explained to me anyone can lead, but many make dangerous mistakes while doing so. Over time I have studied the following aspects of broken leadership and not partaking in them has made a significant difference in my leadership roles.
Sacrifice… what a tough thing huh? Phillip Brunelle never talked about this subject matter to me but he was always showing me what sacrifice looked like. He would leave work early to have more time with his family and then come back to work when they went to sleep. He would spend time coaching his kids in their sports multiple times a week when he could have had that time to himself. He got up two hours earlier than he had to just to make sure he was on top of everything so he could always provide for his family.
Sacrifice is when one gives up something that is valued or important for the sake of other considerations. Phil knew how to sacrifice for others as well as make sacrifices to be great.
Always put others first, especially those who are most important to you. Learn to sacrifice daily for these people. Do things in their best interest not in yours. Love and sacrifice go hand in hand. This does not mean don’t take care of yourself but it does mean be a servant to others, especially family and friends. Leaders know how to sacrifice.
Phillip was always good at balancing his time. He was the hardest working man I knew but he also knew how to relax and genuinely enjoy life. I remember one day as I first started working for him we had so much to do. We were overwhelmed and had what felt like a million calls to make and millions meetings to attend. For about half the day we knocked out a huge chunk of our work and I was exhausted. My brain was about to snap but I was pushing to keep going. All of the sudden, Phil came into my office and said “that’s it lets get out of here” and just like that we grabbed our things and left work. He wanted to go hangout with his family and he invited me to tag along. I would often spend time at Phil’s house so the fact that I was leaving work with my mentor was not an untypical thing, just so you know. As I look back I realize from this memory of mine, Phil knew when to take a good break and go invest time into what was most important to him, his family and relationships. I think this is a necessary trait and skill to have as a business person or for anyone who is in the workforce.
I remember it like yesterday, Phillip sat me down in his office and had a talk with me about always doing what you say and being a man of your word. Most of the things I learned from him were from me merely observing and taking notes of his actions, but this lesson probably sticks out to me so much because he had such a serious conversation with me about the topic. Now, I know what you are probably thinking, “well duh you should do what you say and follow through.” Well guess what, it may be a simple thing but more and more people are becoming terrible at following their words with their actions. Not being able to follow through causes people to not trust you, it makes you look like a selfish liar and eventually will ruin your relationships with others even the important ones.
Over the years Phillip taught me what it truly meant to be a leader, both by conversation and by being an example to me. Today, I want to share with you some of the most valuable lessons I have come to learn on leadership and what it truly means to me.
Here are some of the notes I gathered learning from my mentor who was an amazing leader. I felt they would be more beneficial and easier to comprehend in bulleted form rather than paragraph form:
What you are is God’s gift to you. What you make of yourself is your gift to God.
Why do people fail to realize and fulfill their full potential?
Some people are afraid, but some people never even get the chance. If you have the chance do not be afraid.
So many things crush potential. But what unlocks it?
Leadership unlocks potential.
The highest calling of leadership is to unlock other people’s potential.
Leadership is not management. Management is really important but it is within known constraints and conditions. A leader changes these conditions.
One of the most important skills I took away from my mentor Phillip, was how to set goals affectively. People often think they know how to set goals but in reality they have no idea! When people know how to affectively set goals, the amount they can achieve escalates greatly. If you want to get serious about setting goals and achieving the goals you set, take notes! Entrepreneur.com offers some great insight on goal setting as well.
Have you ever heard of the acronym S.M.A.R.T. Well if you haven’t it can change your life. When you set goals they must be smart goals. They must be each of the following if you truly want to set goals affectively and achieve them.
S – Specific. Meaning what, where and how. Extremely detailed don’t be general or vague. Make sure
you can define them.
M – Measurable. You must be able to see progress in where you’re heading. You have to be able to look back and be able to determine how you have progressed.
A – Assignable, who is this goal for? For you, for your family, for your business, for your team? Assigning a goal to someone or something will help drive you and keep you motivated.
R – Realistic/feasible. Turning on alight bulb is unrealistic, flying apiece of metal across the ocean is unrealistic but it happened. Have challenging goals, yet make them attainable. Better to set a goal that is high that you don’t achieve rather than a low one that you can easily achieve that didn’t better you.
T – Time. Ask yourself, when are you going to do this? When are you going to achieve what you want to achieve? Have an aggressive and feasible goal that has a time frame.
Hey guys! Welcome to my new website called Phillip Brunelle. I just wanted to say thanks for checking it out. I am very passionate about learning, sharing and applying information and concepts that help make people better in this world! To learn more about me take a look at my short bio.
If personal development excites you, then this is the blog for you! I will be sharing with you things that my mentor Phillip, has taught me over the years that has helped shaped me into who I am today.
I am far from perfect but I strive to be my best self everyday. I am in my mid twenties and I own four successful businesses and have a large and successful investment portfolio. I played four years of collegiate basketball and was at the top of my class throughout college. I say this not to brag but to support my claim that the information I have learned is powerful, valuable and applicable.
People truly are my passion and I want to help as many as possible better themselves even if it is through a humble blog.
I’ll hit you with the first tidbit of information I learned from Phillip ASAP!